And she began with a.. "Never let your man see your vulnerability".
Maria, not her real name, is a married woman and a mom of 2. She is very typical - petite, with extra flabs here and there, not too flashy, someone you would not notice not until you see the color of her ID badge which clearly speaks who she is and what she does. But don't be fooled. This woman is a force to be reckon with. And despite all that, she has had her share of infidelity.
She was at her prime when her husband made the infamous detour. She knew it was more than just simple exchange of ILY's or sweet text messages. She knew the fling has turned into an affair. She was headstrong, prepping herself for the worst and reminding herself that she will overcome the turmoil. "Fake it 'til you make it" was her mantra. And she knew that because of what happened, things will inevitably change.
I asked her how she got over that point and managed to stay with her husband. She simply explained,
.." when you're married, you don't get to decide between black or white. You have to consider the many rights your man made in comparison to the one wrong he has committed.."
I nodded. But I was never convinced.
That simple conversation over breakfast opened a lot of queries in my mind.
Is one to succumb to that mentality just because that person happens to be married? Is marriage a step to a lifetime of bliss or a cover up from our delusioned minds over love and relationships? Personally, it just felt wrong in so many levels.
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